Thinking for Yourself

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How I Left a Spiritual Community Without Becoming Bitter

Twenty-five years after walking out of a spiritual community that turned out to be a cult, the two traps that catch most ex-members, and what I kept on the way through.

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Thinking for Yourself

How to Actually Think for Yourself (Not Just Think You Do)

Thinking for yourself isn't disagreement or strong opinions. It's slowing down at the moment an idea clicks, and asking where you got it from.

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Thinking for Yourself

The Dictionary They Gave Me

On borrowed vocabularies, offices that look like ashrams, and the one thing that finally broke the language I was given for my own inner life.

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Thinking for Yourself

I Learned to Verify Everything. Then I Got Stuck.

I learned to verify everything after snap judgments failed me. Then verification became its own problem. One question that cuts through the delay.

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Thinking for Yourself

What Seven Years in a Spiritual Organization Taught Me (And What It Took to Leave)

The funny thing about cults is that nobody inside calls them that. I was twenty-something, European, and convinced I had found something real. Seven years later, I walked out.

Thinking for Yourself

When the Messenger Ruins the Message

I closed a YouTube video in one second because someone looked old and tired. Years earlier, a TV crew dismissed us in one second because we looked young and naive. Different judgments, same mechanism, and I've been on both sides.

Thinking for Yourself

The Fanaticism Test

I run this test regularly like antivirus software for the soul: Can I disagree with my teacher and still respect them? Can I question the system and still practice within it?

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Thinking for Yourself

The Volunteering Trap

I spent twenty years confusing exhaustion with devotion. Here's how volunteering becomes a cage - and the one question that reveals whether your generosity is a choice or a compulsion.

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Thinking for Yourself

Your Beliefs Probably Aren't Yours (And That's Not Your Fault)

Discover why most of what you believe comes from others-and why you can't tell the difference. 20 years of practice, one uncomfortable truth.

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Thinking for Yourself

What Nobody Tells You About Spiritual Organizations

Spiritual organizations are still organizations. That obvious fact has implications nobody talks about. Including the slow drift from mission to maintenance.